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How to Flirt on Instagram: A Grown Man's Guide

A half-generation ago, if you were romantically interested in someone, you did one of two things to fan the flame of their own ardor: You either flirted with them in person or flirted with them over the phone. How times have changed. A single friend of mine recently told me that his go-to, low-risk method of wooing is simply using social media. Yes, he has figured out how to properly flirt on Instagram. There are several non-creepy and even romantic ways to do it.

"Sometimes just following a [woman] can feel like a bold move," he says. "But believe it or not, it works. If she doesn't follow back, that's pretty helpful information. And if she does follow me back, I'll just start liking a photo or two and see where things go… Recently, I got into a back-and-forth with a [woman] in which we kept wordlessly liking each other's photos every couple of minutes. Eventually we DM'd and went on a date."

For the record: he's 38 years old.

Now, whatever you think about this safe, distanced, and even childish way of flirting (for the record: I would urge all men to pick up the phone, always), you simply can't argue with results. So I called up a few dating and social media experts to compile the ultimate dos and don'ts of flirting on Instagram to help you follow, like, and DM your way to relationship bliss.

Do: Follow them before you slide into their DMs.

If you want to get someone's attention, follow them. "Most people view who their followers are and if the other person follows you back, you are already ahead of the game," says Jen Hecht, president of The Dating Advisory Board. This is one action on Instagram that really won't be perceived as too aggressive by anyone, regardless of whether you know them in real life or not. But one word of caution: If you request to follow someone who has a private profile and they don't accept your request, don't request again. Sorry. They're just not that into you.

Don't: Like every single photo they post.

All of our experts agree that a mass liking of someone else's posts is a terrible idea that comes off as obsessive. If you are going to like more than one photo, though, here's one salient piece of advice: "I advise guys to like a variety of pictures, not just selfies and sexy photos," says Jonathan Bennett, certified counselor, dating expert, and founder of The Popular Man. "Build a rapport and get to know her by actually exploring photos that reveal more than just her looks. Women know what a guy is after when he only focuses on the sexy photos."

Do: Send a thoughtful DM.

Ah, to direct message or not to direct message? Sometimes, it might seem like sending someone a DM is a little bit too forward, but "it's not creepy if it's done tastefully," says Hecht. After all, you're an adult, and you know what you want. "Be light, funny, and engaging when sending the message," she advises. If you're reaching out to someone you've never met before, be especially careful to keep things appropriate. "How would you reach out to a prospective business client if you were trying to set up an initial meeting? The same principles apply reaching out to a love interest," Hecht posits. If you already know your love interest, however, skip the DM and text or email them instead.

Don't: Send multiple DMs.

"The basic rule of social media flirting is don't be creepy," says Bennett. Repeat messages when you're not getting a response? Yeah. Creepy. Instagram messages have a handy feature that displays the word "seen" once the recipient has read the message. If your love interest has read your message but has not responded, take the hint.

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Do: Frame comments as questions.

The best way to get a response from someone you're interested in on Instagram is to simply ask them a question, according to Mae Karwowski, social media marketing expert and founder and CEO of Obvious. ly. "Comment on the content of someone's photo in a nice, non-aggressive way," she advises. "Make the comment a question about what is happening in the photo, not that person's looks. Remember, you are trying to start a dialogue," she adds.

For example, if you're leaving a comment on a photo of the person on a beach, say something like: "Your vacation looks amazing, how was it?" Do not write: "You look like a total smoke show." Simple, right? Right.

Don't: Say anything you wouldn't say in person.

Don't get weird behind the filter of social media. "A good guideline is asking yourself: 'Would I say this or do this if I saw this [woman] in person?'" says Bennett. "If the answer is no, then don't do it on Instagram either."

Do: Take things offline.

The end goal here is to meet this person in person, so don't prolong the online conversation when it's possible to go on a date and find out if you're right for each other. "Get out of a public newsfeed as quickly as you can," says Karwowski. "Say, 'I just DM'ed you,' and continue the conversation there. If that goes well, move to text, email, whatever you two want to do." Once you've both shown interest, there's no reason to waste time playing games.

Don't: Send mixed signals.

If you're not interested in meeting someone offline, don't pursue them online. "We need to stop hiding behind our devices," says Hecht. Ghosting, bread-crumbing, and cushioning have become easier than ever to do because of social media, and it's not a good look, especially for an adult man. "Be human," Hecht adds. Don't just reach out to someone to boost your ego or as a way to fill your time when you're bored.

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Do: Make your move and then let it go.

Overall, Karwowski has one all-encompassing rule for Instagram flirting: "Drop a hint once and then drop it, especially if you do not know the person," she advises. "Repetitive comments, likes, and other actions expressing interests do not count as actual flirting. " If they don't take the hint, move on or seek out a more straightforward way to let them know you're interested, like calling to ask them on a date.ae0fcc31ae342fd3a1346ebb1f342fcb

Don't: Rely on social media to get dates.

"The truth is that Instagram was not intended as a dating site, so it can be very confusing when it's used as one," explains Nikki Goldstein, sexologist and author of Single But Dating. "How do you know if someone is liking your photos because they actually like your photos or because they like you? There might be a few more obvious clues if they are sending you direct messages and asking you out for a date but e-flirting in terms of follows and likes can be misleading and confusing and leave someone asking, 'What does it mean?'" In other words, if you're really sure you like someone and you have the means to contact them outside of Instagram, that's probably a better bet.

How To Get Girls on Instagram: The Step-by-Step Guide

You might have met her before in real life…

Or you’ve never met her, and want to flirt with an unknown girl via Instagram.

Today I will give you a complete guide.

In this article you will learn:

  • The #1 way to get her to always text you back
  • How to make her text YOU after a night out
  • The fool proof way to always make her say yes when you ask her out
  • The Instagram pickup method to make her addicted to you (beware for stalkers)
  • How to turn her on WITHOUT texting her
  • How my student picked up an IG supermodel in 3 easy steps
  • And a lot of juicy screenshot examples
  • How you slide in her DMs

Important: I know you're sometimes unsure what to text. So I've put together 10 Texts That Always Work. Copy-paste lines that instantly attract her and make her crave your attention. They work and they are free. Just a small gift to get you started. Enjoy! Click here to get them.

What works BETTER than asking her number

Today I am going to tell you how to use your Instagram to the fullest. And…

If you don’t have Instagram yet, why it’s THE next app to download.

I know there’s a possibility that you’re a man who doesn’t have a lot of time for all kinds of apps and prefers to just meet women in real life.

I fully understand.

And this article is especially of value to you. The lessons I am going to teach here are much more than just some Instagram tips.

Buckle up!

Recently I got an e-mail from Tim:

“Hi Louis […] Everything was super chill, we had a fun night and we exchanged numbers. We’re texting now and the vibe isn’t as fun as back then… What can I do to get her on a date?”

Good one.

The situation in which Tim finds himself can be really f#&@ing frustrating. You’re close and yet if you make one wrong move you have lost her forever.

Oh well…

You’ve come to the right guy. I’ve got some golden tips to keep you far away from these kinds of situations.

There are multiple ways to fix this situation, bro. You may have heard about the first one.

#1: What you text her after a night out

when you text her after a night out, you only have one goal.

Get her out on a date.

Sometimes you can do this immediately, just because it was going so well that it’s impossible to screw up. But if this were the case I wouldn’t be receiving all those e-mails similar to that of Tim.

So what are you going to do as soon as possible?

Remind her of the vibe you two had when you met. Whether it was in the club, street, bar or the moon doesn’t matter.

Most dudes will text something like

hey this is Tim from yesterday 🙂

Sure. Could work.

But only when she’s extremely into you or when you’re just lucky.

You are better off leaving nothing to chance and giving her something that makes her feel things.

If she talked about the time she ran over a rabbit… you text her about it.

Or you talked about how you went night swimming in Spain and she totally loved it?

Text her about that.

Hey Sarah, your crush from yesterday here. Where you more kind to the rabbits on the way home this time? Tim

Or:

Hey Kim, did you get a glow-in-the-dark bikini yet for the next nightly swimming session? Tim

With these kind of texts she will feel again what she felt yesterday. When you two were vibing.

When she reads this kind of text she not only gets reminded of the feelings she had during your first conversation.

She also doesn’t have to try to remember who ‘Tim’ was. And trust me, after a night out, chances are she already has enough on her plate.

You’ll increase your response rate by about 69%.

But it can get even better…

The BEST way to get her on a date

What if I told you there was an even more powerful way?

A way where you don’t have to try your best when texting her? Everything just goes as planned.

And surprisingly enough you never see a dating coach mention it…

I’m talking about Instagram.

For many it comes as a surprise that this app is some kind of cheat code to pick up girls.

Someone who IS aware of the value of this secret, is my bro Yo Gotti

I seen your girl post her BM (W)
So I hit her in her DM
All eyes, yeah I see ‘em
Yeah, that’s your man? I’d hate to be him (whoop)
It goes down in the DM (It go down)
It go down in the DM (It go down, it go down)

In the chorus he proudly raps about how he picked up a girl through Instagram by sliding in her DMs. Her DMs are her “Direct Messages” or in other words: her inbox.

And, he sings, it’s going down. In other words, Yo Gotti has mastered his Instagram game and hooks one woman after another.

How does Instagram work?

Already downloaded the app? Then you can skip this part.

Instagram is a social media app like Facebook. The thing is that you can only post pictures and show off your daily activities via photos and videos.

Other than that you can comment on people’s posts, or send them a message. Right into her DMs.

Lastly you can create “stories”. These are pictures or videos that only last for 24 hours for everyone to see.

After that they seem like they’re gone forever. Although Instagram saves them for you in private to enjoy them again, and you can feature your flirty stories on your profile.

These stories are essential for getting girls on Instagram.

We’ll talk about this later.

Here you see an example of my previous Instagram profile.

On top you see a thumbnail with his followers and the people he follows next to it.

You can follow me on my current TextGod Instagram, where I’ll be posting juicy stories that hook girls regularly.

#2: Do this to stand out from the peasants

You can’t do a whole lot on Instagram. And this is exactly what makes this app so powerful.

It’s not AND pictures AND calling AND playing games AND who knows what else.

You post pictures and videos and that’s it.

But, there’s one very important detail to get girls on Instagram. And that’s the captions you put underneath.

It’s not that easy to make someone feel all kinds of emotions with just a picture. Especially not when you also want to look good on them.

That’s why I obligate you to always put a caption underneath your pictures. Use your brain and be a bit more creative than everyone else. You’ll notice that most people use lyrics from some kind of song. Or they put an emoji of a cocktail or beer glass when they are drinking something in the photo. If it’s a picture of them traveling, you can be sure it will be some kind of wanderlust quote.

And as always you want to be different from the peasants, bro.

A caption of mine that got very good reactions is this one:

A personal rework of the classic quote by Audrey Hepburn.

To each their own, right, Audrey?

Another example?

Well ok, one more.

Meet my German bro Julius, whom you might know if you read my Tinder Tips article.

In this picture, Julius is acting out a typical Mary Poppins scene. In the caption he gives it a funny twist.

In the hashtag he turns it up a notch by changing Mary’s famous “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious” into “supercalifragisendnudes”.

You may notice that both Julius’ and my caption are fairly sexual. That isn’t necessary, as long as you entice her. And you can do that in many more ways other than making a perverted joke.

Do things your way brother!

#3: How to get her number on Instagram

I already told you the right way to text her after getting her number.

And this method works…

… but personally, I do something else.

When I get her number, I tell her something along the lines of:

“Put your number in my phone. And also put in your Instagram so I can stalk your pictures”

Captain Obvious: You only say this when the vibe is right of course. If there’s even the slightest chance that you’d come across as creepy, then a sentence like this one will be the death of you.

Anyway,

Now you not only have her number but also her Instagram. And this makes a big difference.

Just think with me for a second, bro.

Over text you actively have to remind her of the connection.

You probably have encountered it yourself. You thought everything was perfect and yet there was no date.

If she follows your Instagram, she passively gets reminded of the connection…

You can do two things now:

You immediately like one of her pictures so she sees your Instagram straight away.

Or you wait a day and then like one.

Holy Tip:

Whenever you’re DMing a girl, you sometimes get stuck.

You KNOW you need to send here something, but your mind goes blank.

This is where some copypasta lines come in handy.

I have tons of ’em. But luckily for you I created a free download containing The 10 Texts That Always Work.

Someones told me I should ask money for them, but I hand these out for free.

#4: Getting girls on Instagram in one click

That picture you’re going to like, that’s your new secret weapon.

You can do this while you’re still standing next to her.

The upside of this is that she immediately sees your profile with you next to her. That way she gets a better view of who you are and what you do right away.

And the bigger the first impression, the easier the rest will be.

Of course she can’t just go full stalker mode on your Instagram with you still next to her.

That’s why sometimes you wait until the next day to like a picture. That way you’re sure that she’s sober and her brain is fully functional again. Only when you like a picture of her, she will know your Instagram name.

This is what her notifications will look like. Now she can easily click your name and go onto your profile.

From now on she knows your Instagram and thus comes the first enormous advantage.

She can now dig through your Instagram like a police dog on speed.

And bro, I’m telling you, girls LOVE trying to get to know everything about someone.

I can’t even keep count of how many girls know everything about another girl that they never even met. Or about some dude they never talked to.

Once they have your IG (Instagram) they become a female Sherlock.

Up to you to make your Instagram interesting enough for her to change her from Sherlock to Shercock.

Not only my girls do this, all girls do this.

How do I know?

I was on a date with a m’lady when I told her a story from a few years ago.

I noticed from her body language and facial expressions that she already knew parts of it. Things she couldn’t possible know…

…unless she dug very deep into my IG feed…

#5: How to make her feel as if she has known you for years

If you’re trying to get a girl on a date but she rejects you every time… Chances are that she doesn’t feel comfortable enough around you, yet.

No woman wants to go on a date with a guy of whom she doesn’t know whether he will take her to a nice coffee bar or stab her in a dark alley.

Now you can chat all day long with her until she has built up enough comfort…

(or until you don’t know what to say and screw up)

… or you can let Instagram do the work for you.

Because she has access to your profile, she can dig through your pictures as if it’s Christmas. Now I know she won’t check your profile everyday if you guys aren’t speaking. She probably doesn’t want to see the same pictures 69 times either.

And this, my dear, is where Instagram stories come into play.

Instagram stories are temporary pictures and videos that disappear after a period of 24 hours. If people comment on them you’ll receive a message in your DMs, only for you to see.

Here’s the profile of National Geographic:

At the top you see a yellow-red circle around the thumbnail.

This means they have a story active.

Wen you click the thumbnail, the story automatically loads:

This is what you got to see.

In the top left you see it has been posted 4 hours ago. So within 20 hours it will be gone forever. You also see 5 gray blocks at the top. This means that they have posted 5 stories. The next one starts playing as soon as you leave this one. Until you have had them all, then you will end up back on their profile.

Of course National Geographic posts completely different stories than what you are aiming for. Unless you’re a biologist or something like that.

One of my stories I have at the moment of writing is this:

A bit less educational. A bit more humorous and polarizing.

By watching someone’s story you know what that person is up to at that moment.

Imagine being a woman and you just gave your number to a guy. After texting back and forth for a bit, he asks you out. But you’re not entirely convinced. And the last thing you want is an awkward date where you have to make excuses to get away.

Now, what if you already had the chance to watch his IG (or maybe Snapchat or Facebook). Now you have a completely different image of who he is and how he acts.

And if he played it smart, you’d be addicted to his Instagram stories by now…

#6: How to get her addicted to your life

When you post interesting stories you’ll notice a lot of people start to watch them…

(you can see who watched your story)

It’s as if they’re following a tv-show of which they don’t want to miss a single episode… But your story has no fixed air time. It could be uploaded at any moment. Extra exciting.

Each time you add something to your story, she gets an emotional spike because you trigger her curiosity.

If then you also manage to make her laugh, feel sad, or experience any other emotion, you have doubled the effect.

Warning: it’s better to post fewer and better stories than more but lower quality stuff. Once they label your stories as boring she won’t watch them anymore.

You’ll also notice pretty fast that you’re keen to watch some people’s stories every time again. While you just click away the other people’s (boring) stories.

The best thing about this is that you don’t actively invest in her. Whereas each text you send her on WhatsApp is a bit of your attention that is meant solely for her…

She does all the work here. She clicks your story and watches it. You might not even be thinking about her.

Of course you’ll need stories that are interesting. Stories that trigger her emotions.

Stories that stand out. Which is  good news again,  because all the other people have sucky stories:

  • The 82th selfie in front of that same IKEA mirror to show off their outfit
  • A picture of a table with a few beers on it
  • One of many pictures in the gym. That no one cares about.

A good way to stand out is to find your own theme.

Personally I always make my stories a bit more edgy and polarizing. Humor will almost always be included. Back in the day I went completely over the top and posted the most f**ked up stories.

Stories that would make you think that no one would ever want to date me after seeing those. But the opposite was true.

Stories of friends and I climbing the fire escape onto a building, completely naked. Dancing on that fire escape with our dongs out and swinging. I put it all in my story.

A good friend of mine, and fellow dating coach, makes sure that every post contains one or more of following ingredients:

  • Humor
  • His cat
  • Memes

One of my assistants mainly posts stories about how he is working hard.

Some sort of combination of motivational speech, work tips, and random daily life updates.

Lame as f#@k according to some. But he claims he gets dates with it.

Whatever you do, make it your own.

#7: How to get your dream girl (via Instagram)

Alrighty, Instagram can increase trust and attraction in the women whom you’ve exchanged contact info with.

But what if you have a crush on someone you DON’T know yet?

Instagram is still the answer.

And today I got super juicy extra spicy deluxe screenshots for you.

A student of mine is starting to do pretty well for himself in the dating scene.

But recently we accomplished something for him that every guy dreams of…

He encountered a girl on Tinder that you would normally only encounter in your dreams.

He swiped her right and… SURPRISE… no match.

Just like almost any other model on Tinder, she had her Instagram linked to her Tinder profile.

Something you should also do by the way.

When you compare their Instagrams it becomes painfully obvious:

Him: a regular dude. No supermodel looks. No millions. No fame.

Her: an angel on earth. Supernatural looks. No millions but does earn a ton of money doing modeling. Legions of followers.

It’s the kind of girl of which you think you have no shot at.

And still it’s possible.

First of all, you go to her Instagram.

Next you have to make the first move.

What you definitely SHOULDN’T do is go straight to her DMs and compliment her or ask her out on a date.

“Marry me”

This tempting offer is something she gets in her DMs a few times a week.

As you can see, these 2 examples have been sent with 1 day in between.

These guys think that they have a chance by acting all romantic and saying they want to spend the rest of their lives with her. Probably they are hoping to get something back such as:

o m g. You’re crazy!! That’s so sweet of you. I’d LOVE to get married to a gentleman like you!

Keep dreaming boys.

You want to be a bit more subtle.

I’ll show you how to be a bit hard to get. But then you’ll have to do it the right way.  And not like these VeRy cOoL GuYs:

Hahaha, I want to thank the first guy for making me laugh like crazy.

“I found your profile on tinder but I chose not to contact you there because it’s so predictable. ’

Nice try. Of course, you can’t text her on Tinder if she doesn’t like you back, sneaky bro.

The second guy also tries to be super cool. He’s even too cool for Tinder, but somehow he accidentally got onto it.

“A friend of mine got me into using Tinder, which I honestly thought was stupid but I gave it a try and I saw you.”

Then I saw you and… Uh yeah well… It wasn’t a match so uhh… I guess I’m gonna try again here with some lame excuse?

These are only two out of 666 weekly messages my girlfriend gets. 99% of those messages are just like these.

You want to play it a bit more tactical.

I actually made a video with my girlfriend. We were reacting to the Instagram account ‘Tinder Nightmares’.

Watch the video so you don’t have to make the same messaging mistakes those guys make.

Now let’s get into some practical steps to get girls to respond to you on Instagram!

Step 1: Take a look at her recent pictures and her stories

Take your time.

Wait until you see something that’s relevant to you.

This was a post in her story at that moment. Blurred out of respect for her privacy of course.

(this is something that people do on Instagram. When they post a new picture, they take a screenshot of their profile and show that they have added something new. You can see she has drawn a green circle around the new post, on the top left. She adds:

“SLYTHERIN STARTER PACK”

(Slytherin is one of the four houses in the Harry Potter books)

Is this relevant to me? Hell yes!

And a lot more to my student. He’s an ENORMOUS Harry Potter nerd.

Perfect to comment on.

Step 2: Comment

You always want to comment something that stands out. If you’re the 8th person to comment with “nice pic” or “cool outfit”, then you’re better off not commenting at all.

Preferably you want to challenge her a bit.

Holy Tip:

If you don’t see any picture or story on which you can comment something interesting, just wait it out.

If you try to force something there’s a big chance that you’ll screw up.

Anyway, everything related to Harry Potter is relevant to us so we took a look at her new picture.

When you upload a picture, you can caption it.

A small amount of text that says something about your pic.

She uploaded a picture of herself in a dark outfit that reminded her of Slytherin. She captioned it:

“on the ability to be whoever I desire”

To which my student commented:

“Except a wizard”

And then you wait and hope she responds.

Uh oh, I feel something pulling…

 

“watch me”

Great news. An answer. And it’s a pretty playful one at that.

Now you don’t respond back. You don’t keep a conversation in the comments.

Step 3: Slide into the DMs

Or in this case: Slytherin the DMs.

It’s time for step 3, in which we move the conversation to her inbox.

Can you ask her out on a date now? Or tell her she’s breathtakingly beautiful?

No, you can not.

You keep it original and playful. And preferably teasing. Challenge her, bro.

Challenge her.

How did my nerdy student handle this?

He beats her with a REAL “slytherin starter pack”

A picture of his Slytherin scarf with a text saying “real slytherin starter pack” and then some kind of gay ass star that lightens up every conversation.

And so the conversation has started.

And this, my friend, is how you pick up a 10 using Instagram.

So, hopefully, you learned something and chuckled a couple times in the process.

Use your newfound knowledge well, and I’ll see you soon in a new article or YouTube video!

Be sure to check out the TextGod Toolkit down below. It gets you all sorts of goodies like free lines, the best opener, and ways to get better pictures.

Good luck!

Blessings,
Louis Farfields

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How to get a girl interested, how to get her attention

There won't be any cheap pickup tips here.


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If lately you have been thinking long and hard about how to interest the girl you like, but you have absolutely no ideas in your head, you have come to the right place.

Many articles on this topic contain ineffective advice on how to attract the attention of a stranger on the street, using all sorts of dubious tricks, from the series of "approach her, compliment her and touch her shoulder." Even if such techniques once worked (to be honest, we doubt it), now such an approach can quite reasonably be regarded as harassment. Dating on the street should take place in a completely different scenario, the details of which we once described in one of our materials.

In the same article, we decided to focus on how to attract the attention of a girl that you like and that you have known for a while. Surely you are aware that this is often a very difficult task (especially when you have already managed to get to know you well)

How to attract a girl's attention to yourself and still win

So, let's start with the basics, having mastered which you will have much less problems when communicating with the opposite sex (if only because you will feel more confident than now).

1 Read books

If at school it seemed to many of us that it was honorable to skip classes, be a bully and be a thunderstorm of the class, then in adult life this configuration stops working.

Most likely, you have probably met at least one man who said: “Hey, boy, I used to skip school in my time, and now look who I have become. No normal work, no home, no wife. You still have time, so don't repeat my mistakes" .

Therefore, if you want to be a pleasant conversationalist who can interest, inspire and give some good advice, make a list of literature for yourself and start mastering it little by little.

Let it contain something from the classics, like Dostoevsky's "Demons", something from the recent sensational bestsellers, like, for example, "Shantaram" by Gregory David Roberts. Try to read the novels of Viktor Pelevin or Vladimir Sorokin in order to better understand today's reality, and also get acquainted with the book “Sapiens. A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari, which is now being talked about on every corner.

Thus, you can not only boast that you are familiar with certain works, but also share your impressions about what you have read, and also generally show that you understand the literary context. In addition, in the process of reading, interesting thoughts may come to you that can turn your worldview upside down and make you a more meaningful and versatile person. Believe me, it's always a pleasure to deal with such a person.

2 Pump up at the gym

Naturally, in order to interest a girl, you will have to upgrade not only your inner world, but also the outer one. If you understand that your physique needs to be improved and improved, consider joining a gym or at least start exercising at home.

An athletic physique will not only make you feel much more confident and powerful yourself, but will also become the object of interest of the girl you like.

However, it is worth remembering that, despite all the advantages of a muscular physique, not all girls prefer jocks. Someone will like slightly pumped up guys, others with a small tummy, and someone, on the contrary, thin dudes.

Therefore, before proceeding with the transformation of your body, find out about the preferences of the girl you are targeting. Agree, it will not be very pleasant to meet her and hear: “Oh, you've got pumped up. I used to like you better" .

But if you still decide to get a good workout, we have useful material for you, in which we have collected eight instagram jocks that will greatly motivate you to go in for sports.

3 Change your bow

If you realize that your signature style hasn't changed since the 2000s, and girls don't often compliment you about pairing your jeans with sandals, you should consider buying new clothes.

The main thing is to determine a style that will look organic on you and in which you will feel confident.

It can be some kind of casual with cropped trousers, a jacket and stylish loafers. Or more street style with a classic black hoodie, trendy sneakers and plain joggers. It all depends on how you feel about yourself.

To spice up your style, think of some accessories like chains, bracelets, watches, rings, and so on. Just don't go overboard with them. You are not yet Rick Ross with Gucci Maine.

4 Become an influencer

So, let's move on to your image on the network. Today, one of the main indicators of success is not only money, but also the number of subscribers in social networks who follow your life and listen to your opinion in many ways.

Such a criterion of success has become one of the main ones quite recently. Even Forbes, which in July published a rating of the most successful young Russian stars, for the first time in history calculated success not only by financial indicators, but also by the number of followers on Instagram.

Thus, social networks today have become a hallmark of a person, and sometimes it is cooler than the person himself (such a deformation). Therefore, to impress the girl you like, decide on the content that you will post on Instagram, and then take care of your promotion.

Focus on your hobbies, professional activities and potential target audience. Then everything will work out.

5 Show that you can earn money

As we mentioned above, the classic criterion for success today is financial well-being. And it’s not worth saying now that: “I want to find a girl who, with me, even a hut will seem like paradise” .

We live in a time when it is almost impossible to live without money (unless you live in a remote village, raise cattle and drink water from a well). In all other cases, be kind to take the path of competition with the same dudes as you, and achieve career success, demonstrating to yourself and everyone else that you are worth something.

These are the rules of the game and ignoring them is pretty pointless. Subsequently, you can, of course, move to a hut, but make sure that it is warm, light, clean and comfortable there.

Fleeting ways to get her attention

If you want to attract a girl right now and you don’t have time to read books, spend several months going to the gym, become a popular and in-demand professional in your field and earn large sums, we have several ways to impress her this week.

1. Upload a photo with some celebrity on the Internet and write that he is your friend

Everything is pretty simple. You don't have to become a celebrity yourself if you can take a piece of fame from some popular dude.

What needs to be done for this?

Go to a concert of some star, catch her after the performance and ask her to pose for a joint photo. It is desirable that the scenery in the background does not indicate that you are one of the thousand who took a picture with her that day (this can be fixed in Photoshop).

Then publish this photo with the caption: “Here, I met with Dima Malikov. We haven’t seen each other for a long time, we had a pleasant chat about the old days” .

Here Dima Malikov will not be against such a joke, and you will be able to attract the attention of a girl.

2. Get out of a beautiful girl's expensive car without paying her fare

If you have a beautiful friend with an expensive car, ask her to give you a little drive around the city until you spot a girl you like on the street. When you notice it, immediately drive closer and stop. Get out of the car with a response: "Chao, Christine! I'll dial you later" and close the door behind you, as if you do this every day.

This option will not impress everyone, but you can try.

3. Call a girl to the trampoline center and do a somersault there

Do this if you can do somersaults, and she is ready to go to the trampoline center.

Other options:

  • invite her to bowling and get a strike;

  • invite her to billiards and hit a few balls with one blow;

  • invite her to the shooting range and win a big toy;

  • invite her to the theater and play on stage.

In general, invite her to where you are good (just don't compete with her).

4. Reprimand guys who are loud in public

If you are not afraid of being beaten and want to appear as a noble knight, make a remark to some guys who behave badly in a public place.

It is advisable to do this just in the place where you invite her (in billiards, bowling, shooting range, theater, and so on).

5. Invite a girl to a good restaurant and arrange with the waiter to tell you when they meet: “Hello, (your name), nice to see you again”

Well, everything is clear here. If you are not rich, then you can at least pretend that you have money. In the long run, this option will not work, but if you want to impress her tomorrow, you know what to do.

How to attract the attention of a girl you like

How to attract a girl's attention to yourself? To win women's attention (it doesn't matter whether you already know each other or accidentally ran into a supermarket) you should start by taking care of your appearance, and only then take up various original techniques and behavior strategies. The initial impression adds up the appearance, and only if you were able to make a good impression, you will have the opportunity to demonstrate all the beauties of your inner world. A stylishly and neatly dressed guy, observing the rules of hygiene and taking care of himself, smelling of a pleasant expensive perfume instead of sweat and engine oil, already attracts girls or does not cause antipathy. A smile, a kind look, a beautiful posture demonstrate your best sides not only from the outside, but act on a subconscious level, sending signals to the girl that she has a strong and healthy man in front of her, with whom you can start a family and continue the family.

In order to know how to attract the attention of a girl you like, it is not necessary to attend many courses and learn special literature. There is one simple way that everyone forgets about - this is to be busy with your own business, inspiring and developing, instead of constantly sticking to the feet of your beloved. A guy who succeeds automatically becomes more attractive in the eyes of a girl than one who every minute confesses his love to her, but is nothing of himself. Initially, such complete power and deification can turn a girl’s head, but then rationality turns on, and it turns out that being close to someone who values ​​\u200b\u200bhis development and achievements, even if sometimes to the detriment of the girl’s whims, is more reliable, because he will definitely take care of the future and give a lot reason to be proud of them.

Be bold in expressing your interest, don't look away, and be the first to meet you, it is unlikely that a girl will be interested in a guy who has a shyly blank look or blushes when talking. Following the tips for attracting the attention of a girl, adapt them for yourself, without losing your own individuality, so that next to you is exactly the one who is able to appreciate your personal qualities, and not a fictitious image that cannot be maintained for a long time.

How to attract the attention of a girl you like?

Despite the fact that winning the attention of a girl requires activities aimed at interaction, you should first take care of yourself, carry out a kind of preparatory work that will help both attract the attention of a girl you like and win positive reviews from everyone around you. Such investments of time and effort will pay off all your life, because reputation means a lot, and even more so in the eyes of women (no matter how cute you are to a girl, if then all her friends speak negatively about you, then she will be cold to you, and on the contrary, there were cases when girls fell in love with a guy in absentia before they met only according to the stories of others). You can arouse interest even at a distance, and even without knowing a specific girl, and for this you need positive self-esteem and confidence in your own attractiveness. You can increase these indicators of self-perception at trainings and in your own life, providing yourself with multiple contacts with positive people, participating in charity events and complex projects, and improving your own skills in courses. A confident person who knows his own worth evokes a desire to contact and gives positive emotions, while complexes and uncertainty interfere with building a healthy interaction, and the partner becomes a psychotherapist about whom they are trying to resolve problems.

Courage, confidence, self-acceptance are the first steps that help in the future not to copy others, but to be yourself. Girls feel fake, and if you are a nerd you should not play a bully, it is better to show your strengths, which will definitely cause more sympathy than attempts to squeeze into someone else's image. Girls like sincerity and confidence, so no matter how stupid and unsightly you consider your traits or hobbies, open up and you may be surprised at the amount of female attention.

When guys read advice about caring for their own appearance, sometimes it takes on hypertrophied forms that repel girls. Yes, you should monitor the cleanliness of the body, but you should not pour half a bottle of perfume on yourself, yes, the beard and hair should be combed, trimmed and styled, but not filled with gel. The same applies to clothing - it should be clean, reflecting your inner essence, emphasizing your dignity, but the heap of expensive brands and the lack of convenience for the sake of fashion are not welcome.

When communicating, choose a friendly, open manner. Think about how much you yourself want to communicate with a person who is always angry or thoughtful. Your emotional state can attract girls like a magnet, and if, after talking with you, her mood improves or brightens her soul, then she can show the next interest herself, simply because positive people who are oriented towards dialogue, and not their own thoughts and problems, are pleasant interlocutors capturing attention.

If you have achieved that the girl communicates with you, give up early, you need to attract her attention to yourself as to the interlocutor, otherwise a new acquaintance may end, and the old one may become cooler. Be interesting, constantly expand your knowledge so that there is something to talk about, find your hobby, find out rare interesting facts. Do not memorize the information, but read what is interesting to you, then all the interesting moments will be remembered by themselves, and when you start answering the girl's questions about yourself, it will sound more intriguing than "I have no hobbies, I play computer." Being interested in a girl, do not abandon your own interests, otherwise you will soon have nothing to talk about or only topics from her life will remain, and believe me, a guy who understands environmental cosmetics is more surprising than interesting.

When sharing your life stories and hobbies, show interest in the girl's life, her past, hobbies, and family. The more questions you ask, the more interest she will feel, and you will get information that can help you build further relationships or find common topics and activities. But be tactful, consider the psychological distance at every stage of your relationship, asking questions. The same question about the first intimate experience at the beginning of a relationship can cause a storm of negativity and further neglect on the part of the girl, while with a long and trusting relationship, it will help to get closer and better understand each other. In addition to uncomfortable questions, watch the girl's reaction, as you can touch on topics that are absolutely neutral from your point of view, but painful for her. If the answers become monosyllabic, and irritation or ice appears in intonations, then quickly change the subject.

More humor and compliments with original content. Let the jokes be relevant to the moment, instead of memorized jokes, and the compliments are individual for her, instead of boring “beautiful eyes”. Be gallant and exclude any vulgarity in the form of direct looking at and touching intimate places. With girls, it’s better not to force things, but to be attentive, but a little cold, this will give her the opportunity to feel her own interest in you, instead of the usual algorithm of rejecting all persistent fans. Show the girl that you can be friends, communicate and support that you are interested in her as a person, and not just as a sexual object.

And of course, girls love flowers and gifts - use this weakness to stand out from the rest. Add intrigue by sending presents by courier, let her guess who it could be, invite her to dinner not by SMS, but by putting a beautiful note in chocolate. You should not bet on the price of the present, it is more important what mood and impressions the girl will receive than the cost (and not everyone can accept an expensive gift, and many will consider this an unambiguous hint, for which you will receive your slap in the face, while the bouquet hand-picked dandelions will cause many different pleasant and pure feelings).

How to get the attention of a pen girlfriend?

Communication is increasingly moving from face-to-face meetings to online space, this helps to save time, allows you to communicate with those who are far away, and also opens up communication with those people who are interesting to you, and not with those with whom you find yourself in the same geographical space . The freedom to communicate with those you like has a downside - the ease of establishing contact is accompanied by the same ease of terminating it, because it is enough to remove a person from active contacts and the problem is solved, there will be no random meetings and awkward looks. Therefore, if sympathy arose on the network, it is worth considering how to attract the attention of a girl in contact, facebook, instagram and other social services. It is necessary to arouse a really lively interest, and not provoke empty correspondence, which can ignite from idleness, and fade as soon as things reappear.

When you want to please a girl in reality, then put your appearance in order, when you try to please her in correspondence, put your page in order. Remove pornographic and obscene materials, cruelty and violence, clean up your photos by deleting photos with exes, in a state of intoxication and at dubious events. Upload fresh beautiful photos that show not only your portrait and staged studio photos, but also your activities (maybe you planted a tree, played basketball, organized an action for children in a shelter). After that, you can appear at the girl not by direct communication, but by likes and reposts.

In order for communication to immediately start as something meaningful, avoid templates in greeting and establishing contact, it is better to start with a general topic. Yes, you definitely have a common topic, because somehow you found her page (perhaps she commented on something in the general group, then start communicating with that, or you have common friends, then you can ask how she is with them familiar). For a flight of fancy in search of originality, all methods are suitable, except for humiliating and insulting jokes, and about all the others - do not be afraid to seem ridiculous, because a person who is able to laugh and self-ironic evokes sympathy and creates the impression of a confident and interesting interlocutor.

Unobtrusively ask a girl about her life - her almanac page with hints for topics and questions, raising which you can count on her interest. Just don't overdo it with sweetness, praising her tastes and admiring the complete coincidence of your musical preferences, add a little variety by enlivening the discussion, asking why she thinks that way. Not an argument, but sincere interest from a different position allows a person to tell more about himself, and give you space to express yourself. Waiting for active interest from a girl can be a mistake, so the task of self-presentation falls on your shoulders to make it look like an indirect mention when discussing another topic.

Not knowing how to attract the attention of a girl in contact, many begin to use the services offered, sending stickers with hearts, romantic music and funny pictures. It has never worked because most people do it, besides, messages sent with a single click do not have a personal history and an individual approach - you merge into a gray mass of the same lazy fans. It is better to use intrigue by discussing various topics with her, expressing your opinion, do not be afraid to criticize the girl, this will hook her. Hold on regardless of her messages - you can leave the network while she writes a response or disappear for several days, you may not immediately answer her, even if you are online - this behavior makes the girl doubt, and since communication has already begun, she will try to please you . There is nothing worse than annoying online, when your messages begin to resemble spam mailings, and do not let you get bored and the flow of new information.

And the most important rule of correspondence is to write correctly, otherwise, when reading, the girl's brain will stumble over mistakes every time, which will not add pluses to you, but rather make her stop communicating. And it's not even that all the girls are snobs and require a thorough knowledge of grammar, it just indirectly reduces your chances, not to mention the fact that automatic spell checking and auto-correction are now working everywhere.

How to get the attention of an ex-girlfriend?

There may be different motives behind this question, and it is from them that one should start before taking action. If the desire to attract her attention is dictated by a thirst for revenge, the desire to take revenge, spoil the mood and similar things, then the plan will most likely fail. Those. Of course, you will attract attention, but you will not achieve the desired reaction, because if you broke up on such notes, it means that it is in you that resentment lives, and the girl was the initiator of the break. Since she does not appear, everything is fine with her and she does not regret, and artificial attempts to impute to her what a wonderful person she has lost will lead to her indifferent look or cause laughter.

If you regret the loss, then there is a chance to get it back if the separation happened due to some stupidity, and not because of serious detailed reasons, in the light of which it is better to suffer through a crisis moment than to be drawn back into an unbearable relationship.

In order to re-interest the former, you should not knock on the threshold of her house and bother with calls, on the contrary - take a break, disappear from sight. During this time, get on with your life - change the gatherings in the bar for sports, pursue a career, go on a trip, learn something new. In addition to the fact that changing your life in a different direction will significantly take up your time and prevent you from suffering and sinking into depression, when you meet a girl you will have something to show and tell, in addition to the changes that she can personally see in you (it changes from the experience gained). and look and gait).

When meeting, keep a neutral tone and physical distance, as with comrades - remaining friendly, do not tell her how much you missed or wanted to meet and do not drag out communication at first. It would be nice if she saw you in the company of other girls, this will cause jealousy, but be careful, because. if your communication with others is too relaxed, then the former may think that this is a theatrical performance or simply be disappointed in you. Do not rush rapprochement, and devote maximum time to self-development - let her see that she is not in the first place, people value the lost more than the not acquired. Well, when the cold gradually begins to go away and the girl herself begins to show more active interest, your task is to support her in this with an open and sincere conversation - you can make out the mistakes that led to the break, you can honestly talk about the desire to restore everything. When approaching and clearly interested, do not be afraid to open up, because this girl knows you better when you can speak openly, which will raise your value in her eyes.

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