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How to Pick Up Girls on Instagram (aka how to make real life IG friends)

Instagram is an amazing place to connect with people, and I’ve made wonderful, genuine friends through the app.

I’ve noticed trends and patterns with the people who I interact with on Instagram. There are those who I want to get to know better, and those who I do not. I debated whether to even write this blog, but after I casually mentioned it to a few friends and they immediately wanted to hear about it, I decided I needed to write it.

So here it is: my personal step by step process or how to pick up girls on Instagram.

While this post is titled “How to Pick up Girls on Instagram”, this post is really for anyone who wants to make friends through Instagram. Whether it’s a brand that you admire, an industry peer, or someone you genuinely want to get to know better, you can use these steps. These steps are from my personal experience with the app, and have not been tested otherwise. While this process does not just apply to guys trying to pick up girls through Instagram, for the remainder of this post, I am going to put you, the reader in the position of a guy, and then I’m going to use the pronoun “she” to represent the person you are wishing to befriend.   I’m going to give you the task of replacing those pronouns with ones that make sense for you.

Sound good? Ok let’s go.

The goal of this entire process is the employ the Know Like Trust factor with the person that you would like to befriend. First she must know who you are. Then she must like you. And finally, she must trust you enough to take the relationship beyond the app and into real life.

So let’s get started.

All 3 of us met on Instagram, and then did a creative photoshoot together for fun. 

Part 1: KNOW

The first part of the process is to get her to know who you are. The KNOW phase has 3 steps:

 

Step 1: Follow her

To get her to know who you are, you must start by following her. Following does 2 thing:

When you follow her, she will get a notification that you did so. She might click on your profile to see who you are. If you’re lucky, she might even follow you back.

Second, her content will now show up in your feed, which makes it easier to interact with her content, which brings us to step 2…

Note: Make sure your account is set to public! If she gets a random follow request and can’t see who you are, the likelihood of her following you back is much lower. You should also make sure your account represents a true version of yourself that you would be proud for her to see. 

 

Sep 2: Start by liking her photos. Get to know who she is by what she posts. 

You have to engage with her content if you want her to ever know who you are. Liking is likely not enough to get you even noticed, but it’s a start. Read her posts, and learn about who she is by what she chooses to share. Pay attention if there is a certain thing that she talks about a lot.

 

Step 3: Engage with her content. Start commenting on her photos every couple days with thoughtful comments that relate to the post, and the information that you have learned in step 2. 

Now that you have a sense of who she is, start really engaging with her content. Comment on her photos, but be strategic. Don’t comment on every photo, and it’s important that the comments are relevant and genuine. I cannot stress this enough. The comments should relate to the photo, and to what you know about her. For example, do you notice that she seems to share a lot of photos of her cat? Next time she posts a photo of her cat, write a thoughtful comment about how great you think her cat is. If you notice that she uses Instagram as a business tool (ex, photographer), ask a question about her work, or comment about what you think she is doing well. Don’t lie, but comment as if you were talking to a real person, because you are.

Watch closely to see if and how she is replying to your comments. Is she engaging with you in return? Watch to see if see if she follows you back, or genuinely starts engaging with your content. If she consistently and genuinely engages with your content, that means she knows who you are, and it is time to move on to phase 2!

Notes: The more followers she has, the longer it will take to get her to notice you, even if you are commenting regularly. Do not give up though! Consistency is key. Consistent, meaningful comments will stand out, and she will eventually notice you.

It’s also important that you start with commenting rather than DMs. If you go straight to DMs, she may not even see the message if it goes into the request folder. You don’t want to be that guy sliding into her DMs with a random message when she has no idea who you are.

I met all of these lovely people at an InstaMeet. 

Phase 2: LIKE

Now that she knows who you are, you need to ensure that she likes you.

Deeper engagement: reply to her story every few days 

Continue liking and commenting on her photos as in phase 2, but it’s time for deeper engagement. Watch her stories and reply to them every few days, much like commenting. The benefit of replying to stories is that the reply will take you to her DMs, where you can have longer, private conversations.

Start by sending simple, relevant replies to her stories. Ask her questions, send a few words, or send emoji responses. Then continue short, easy conversations about the story.

Example: She posts a video of her cat playing with a string. You could reply with “Wow! Your cat is so playful! How old is your cat?” 

After replying to a couple stories, you can also send her a DM not in response to her story. Just make sure this DM has a purpose! Ask her a question about something that she is interested in. Send her a photo or post that made you think of her.

If she seems willing to talk to you, and typically answers conversationally when you send her a message, it probably means she likes you. Now, this does not mean that she LIKES you romantically. It just means that she probably likes you for an Instagram friend. If she likes you, it’s time to move to phase 3: TRUST

If she often doesn’t answer you, or doesn’t seem to want to continue conversations, continue with the KNOW and LIKE phase.

 

Phase 3: TRUST

Once you feel confident that she knows you, likes you, and trusts you, it is time to take the relationship off Instagram and into real life. What’s the best way to do this?

If she is answering you regularly in DMs, move short conversations into longer conversations. Move away from talking about stories and Instagram, and start talking about real life. Keep asking her questions, but try to steer the conversation into real life topics. If she consistently keeps the conversation going, and asks you question in return, it is likely that she trusts you.

At this point, I recommend asking for her phone number so that you can communicate more easily. Try asking in the middle of a good conversation. Something like “hey, do you mind sharing your number so that we can keep this conversation going more easily?”

If she says yes, congrats! You have officially made it to the end of the process. the future is in your hands now.

If she says no, you can continue with your efforts, but it may be best to move on and accept that while you can be Instagram friends, you may not ever move the relationship into real life, and that is ok!

There are billions of users on Instagram, which means billions of opportunities to make acquaintances, create solely digital friendships, and cultivate genuine relationships that will continue way beyond the app.

Here are 2 photos of me with my friend Flora! We met at an InstaMeet, and have been friends ever since.

 

 

How To Pickup Women With Instagram (Proven Techniques)

Whether you like it or not, social media is a necessity for gaming these days. Women use it to vet potential men that they want to sleep with and they also like to post useless crap that nobody really cares about, just to get pointless likes from thirsty men… but that’s another story for another time.

Build a life where women find and contact YOU.

Regardless of how you feel about Instagram, it’s a platform that can take your sex life from nothing to… well, unlimited amounts of women on tap if you want. It just depends on how tight your IG game is.

Today, I want to show you EXACTLY how to go from not having a clue how to use IG to having an account that attracts women on a consistent basis, 24/7, sliding into your DM’s and wanting to meet when you touch down in their city.

Don’t believe me?

Take a look at this…

It never stops.

This is the kind of message you can expect from dozens, hundreds, even thousands of women all year round once you have a solid understanding of what women are looking for on IG.

Sounds a bit far fetched right?

I mean you’re not Dan Bilzerian… you can’t just rent a yacht, invite hoards of IG hoes, spray champagne on their tits and post it to your feed.

I agree. But you CAN strategically post photos and videos that will make you appear more attractive than you are, which intrigues women that you might not have even had a chance with had you not created an IG account.

I’m serious, this silly little photo app can get you access to models, actresses, socialites, girls next door and even celebrities. It’s that powerful.

Right, let’s get on with it.

Why you NEED to create an IG account if you want to get more lays

Super important these days dude.

I meet a lot of guys that either fall into one of two categories:

  1. Guy #1: They don’t have IG and don’t care about it. To them it’s a sh*tty little app that women use to post selfies and what they’re eating. To some extent I completely agree!
  2. Guy #2: They have IG and have done for some time. BUT… they suck at posting photos that create intrigue, attention, likes, etc. All they are concerned with is posting photos of them with friends in a bar or pub, random stuff that women don’t care about.

Don’t be these guys.

The reason you need Instagram to get laid is simple. It gives you access to women in every part of the world, without moving from your bed. Essentially it’s one of the best apps to get laid.

Once you have the right photos, videos and stories in place… it works for you. Women see that you have an interesting, exciting or adventurous life and they WANT IN!

You see what IG offers that most guys don’t take full advantage of is one of the most powerful forms of seduction…

Social proof.

The more followers, cool/interesting photos and videos, comments and likes you have, the more attractive you look.

Women notice this, they can’t help but feel attraction for a guy that has his sh*t together.

Think of IG like your online dating profile.

Now you might be thinking: “But, I already get laid without IG… so why do I need it?”.

Let me put it this way, would you rather talk to 100 women in 1 week in the hopes that you bang a handful of them or would you rather have 100 women contact you and you choose which ones you want to spend time with and eventually bang?

Obviously the latter right?

Well that’s what IG can offer. So stick with me, it’s going to get interesting from here out.

4 mistakes most men make with IG that you must avoid at all costs!

Avoid them if you want your account to be popular.

Before we get into the good stuff, I first want to cover the mistakes that most guys make, which kills their account and any attraction a woman could have for them.

#1 – Post stupid photos/videos with friends

What’s more intriguing to a girl… a guy looking out over at a sunset in a country she wants to visit like Italy OR a guy with his friends in the pub downing shots of tequila and falling over?

Yeah, you need to constantly think about how you’re looking to the world in your feed, because people judge, especially women. Don’t post something you think makes you look stupid, no matter how lighthearted you may think it is.

#2 – Use old, bad quality photos

Stop taking low lit selfies in your house or in a club and definitely don’t post old photos from years ago that are pixelated. This makes you look outdated, uninspiring and boring.

The aim is to use either a quality camera on your smartphone or ideally a DSLR camera. I know you might think this is overboard, but it’s your IG account, i.e your life being shown to the world. Taking it serious matters.

#3 – Don’t plan or use any techniques

Sporadic posting of random photos and videos is a bad way to go. If you post a selfie once a month, how do you think that’s going to help your profile? It won’t! You have to constantly be thinking about content that will help make you look better than the average guy.

Posting regularly will keep people engaged, using the right photos will make your account interesting, so more people will follow.

#4 – Not using hashtags, tagging or writing captions

A lot of guys use stupid captions that they think is funny in the moment, but in reality it just makes you look like a moron. Things like “One for the boys…. Oi oi!”. What is that? Useless!

You need to be using the captions to create the impression that you’re a cool guy, deep thinker, happy with life, living his dreams etc. It should encourage people to comment. Also using hashtags and tagging others is a great way to boost your profile visibility.

Ok, so now we have the bad stuff out of the way… let’s get onto creating the account.

Creating the account (username, bio and profile photo)

Takes less than 5 minutes.

When creating your account, it’s important to take the following into consideration:

  1. Your username
  2. Your bio
  3. Your profile photo

All three help each other, so you need to nail them all.

Your username

In most cases you just want to use your name. Do not use something childish like gambinolovetits96, it doesn’t look good. Go with your full name, keep it short and avoid too many dashes, periods or underscores.

Your bio

Keep this short and to the point. Don’t be vague or reveal your political or religious views in there. It will just put people off.

Saying something like “Love traveling, 32 countries and counting. Self employed, avid reader and sunset watcher”. This tells people that you’re adventurous, smart, ambitious and peaceful.

Your profile photo

Again, keep it simple. A shot of your face is best so that people can see it’s you when they search for your name in IG. A nice smile or looking away from the camera in a model-esq pose is perfect.

Right, so now you have your account setup, let’s talk about the type of content you need on your feed.

The 5 types of photos you should only post

Don’t post anything until you read this.

As I’ve already mentioned, posting the photos will bring you next to no results from the women you want. So you need to try and only post photos that convey the following:

  1. Adventure: You are a man that travels the world. Every girl wants to do this, so they will be jealous of you.
  2. Confidence: Knowing how to pose will convey confidence. You need to be comfortable in front of the camera in any situation.
  3. Style: Taking photos of you in cool casual clothes, a suit, dress shirt etc shows that you take pride in your appearance. This is crucial these days.
  4. Good genetics: You should be working hard on your physic too. There’s no need to look like The Rock, but having a well toned athletic body can do wonders.

Now that you know what needs to be conveyed you can work on posting the right photos. Here are some examples of the types of photos you should be posting:

Street shots – Perfect for fashion, traveling, showing people places they most likely will never see. These are the photos that you need to be posting most.

Social gathering – When you’re at a wedding, special event, cool and well known club/bar. Take the opportunity to get a good shot. Try not to post anything that looks try hard or setup. Needs to be natural.

Beach – If you have a good body, then you need to show it off in a cool way. No bathroom selfies. Natural shots of you looking away from the camera work best.

Sports – If you love sports, then you should show that you do. Anything works well with these types of photos, but action shots are best, like riding a jet ski, surfing, volleyball on the beach, rugby etc.

Animals – Be careful with this one. Taking a photo with the odd dog or cat is fine, but it can get cheesy. So be very sparing with these shots.

The absolute perfect time to post your photos or videos

Want more likes? Post them at THIS time!

The super boffins over at Sprout Social have been crunching numbers and to get the most amount of likes, comments and potential exposure for new followers you need to post at these times:

  • Sunday: 5:00 p.m.
  • Monday: 7:00 p.m. & 10:00 p.m.
  • Tuesday: 3:00 a.m. & 10:00 p.m.
  • Wednesday: 5:00 p.m.
  • Thursday: 7:00 a.m. & 11:00 p.m.
  • Friday: 1:00 a.m. & 8:00 p.m.
  • Saturday: 12:00 a.m. & 2:00 a.m.

Now I wouldn’t be overly obsessed with posting at the right times, but if the research is there and proves these are the ideal time frames to increase your metrics, then I’d stick to what’s working.

Other than that, you should also test times yourself.

How to get 10+ new REAL followers every day

Fake followers won’t help.

Having an IG account with amazing photos isn’t enough, you need followers that interact with your content to make you seem more legit and to allow social proof to work for you.

When a girl you haven’t met before sees your follower count, she is immediately impressed. She can’t help it. It shows that you have something interesting to show and people are willing to follow you for it.

Here are some real techniques for getting followers:

  • Daygame/night game – Start approaching women in coffee shops, the street, the park, clubs, bars and make it a point to add them on IG instead of getting their numbers. The combination of great photos and a growing following will intrigue her enough to reply to you and meet up. Aim to speak to to 1 or 2 new women per day.
  • Tinder – Once you have great photos, using Tinder will be much more enjoyable and you won’t be settling for scraps like most guys do. Girls will automatically follow you and even sometimes message you on there.
  • Follow, comment… unfollow technique – Start looking at profiles which are under 1k followers and like/comment on their best photos. They will return the follow in most cases and like your photos too. It’s reciprocal but it works. After awhile, you can unfollow them if they don’t post anything interesting.
  • Buy shoutouts – Use a service like Shout Cart to buy shout outs from IG accounts which have a high follower count and can help drive followers back to your feed. Most people don’t do this, but it’s worth a try.

PRO TIP: Never ever buy followers. They are absolutely useless. Why? Because they are fake bots that only boost your numbers, they don’t actually like or comment on your photos. So it makes your account look shady. Not a good look.

Conclusion: What you need to do next…

Now you have a plan that you can execute daily to build up an IG account that will easily attract women. But you have to put in the work, just like with everything else in life.

Here’s what you need to do right now:

  1. Get 5-10 professional shots – Hire a photographer to follow you for a few days. Ask them to take candid shots of you just living your life. These will be the shots you can use on IG.
  2. Create an account – Get your account setup with the right username, bio and profile shot.
  3. Invite your friends/family – Connect with as many people as you can in your immediate circle and ask them to like/share and comment on your new photos to get things started.
  4. Post new photos regularly – It’s important to try and post at least 1 new photo per week to build momentum and keep the account growing.
  5. Build your following – Use the steps above to get new followers daily. If you follow all the steps and stick to them, you can get between 5 and 10 new followers every day for sure.
  6. Check for catfish warning signs – If you’re adding and DM-ing a girl you’ve not met in real life, then you need to make sure that the profile is legit.

Now go out there and build an IG account that girls will go crazy for!

How to meet a girl on Instagram

Dating sites are losing ground. Now, in order to start a dialogue with the girl you like, it is not at all necessary to fill out a detailed questionnaire, indicating gender, age and intentions only for a serious relationship. If on dating sites beautiful girls are forced to “fend off” a crowd of annoying fans looking for one-night stands, dating on Instagram is perceived differently. That is why your chances of inviting a stranger you like for a walk around the city or to a cozy cafe are much higher. nine0003

Instagram is one of the most popular platforms where you can get acquainted with the girl you like - whether it's a cute blonde or a curvaceous brunette. Almost all of the fair sex have an active account on this social network. However, it is not always possible to get access to the profile: after all, it can simply be closed and available only to friends. Find out how to meet a girl on Instagram: we have collected proven tips especially for you.

How to get acquainted on Instagram: important rules

1. Profile photos that work for you

people for theirs. Of course, bright pictures taken in a professional studio cannot but attract attention. Passing off another person as yourself, you run the risk of “losing”: if communication with a girl reaches the point that she wants to see her in real life, “expectation-reality” can greatly upset her. nine0003

Even if you are not a professional model or sportsman, you prefer front-facing shots rather than working with a photographer, try to choose normal photos. A categorical “no” - pictures with a naked torso (you risk immediately demonstrating all the “seriousness” of your intentions), with friends, memes and movie characters on the “avatar”.

Your main task is to attract attention, so make sure that the quality of the photos is appropriate, and not the same as if they were taken with an old soap camera. nine0003

And that's not all. If there are pictures on your Instagram profile that confirm how much you like to relax with friends after work in a pub (especially when drunk), what conditions you live in (now we are talking about elementary order, and not about the fact that photos should be taken exclusively in the cottage). You shouldn’t post a “selfie” every 2 hours - it’s better to post fewer posts that will interest the girl you like, demonstrate your status and character, than a bunch of the same type of posts. nine0003

2. Posts are your visiting card

Before liking the photo of the girl you like, see if your profile contains information that will be of interest to your chosen one. Instagram is not only a photo platform. Here you can add posts, talk about interesting topics (preferably not just another fishing trip with friends).

What to write about? Everything is individual: if you are engaged in investments, tell your subscribers about your successes or share profitable strategies. Do you like literature and cinema? Great: post a few posts about paintings and books you like. The main thing is not to “replay” and alternate entertaining content with useful content. nine0003

Instagram has an interesting format called stories. These are short videos that you can post unlimited. However, they only last 24 hours. "Flight of fantasy" is not limited - tell us about yourself, hobbies, interests, share your favorite tracks. So you can not only “declare” yourself more, but also impress the girl you like with openness and sociability.

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Another important point: profile description. Remember: no philosophical quotes that look more like posts from Vkontakte publics. Enter your name, age, city, interests, or education. Ideally, if you post a “hook phrase” in your account, so that the chosen one can start a dialogue with you herself. Do not forget to attach links to social networks: the girl will make sure that in front of her is not a fake. nine0003

3. Remember: no lies

It's no secret that most girls would prefer to see a purposeful guy with a beautiful figure and a high income next to them. But there is one “but”: ideals simply do not exist. What we see in the picture on the Internet may turn out to be just a “dummy” in real life.

In order to get the attention of a lady you like, you should not start with a lie. This is a losing strategy. Believe me: there are enough "millionaires" and "masters of sports in boxing", who concurrently live in 3 countries, in social networks. This will immediately alert the girl. nine0003

Talk about your accomplishments, but don't exaggerate them. And if you don’t like the current state of affairs yourself, before you start dating Instagram, work on yourself. Believe me: it’s easy to get rid of extra pounds by attending workouts and adhering to proper nutrition, if you wish, you can change your unloved job for a profitable hobby. Everything else is just excuses.

4. Forget the formulaic phrases

Classic tricks like: “Hello, beautiful, will we have some time tonight?” long out of fashion. Any girl will perceive such a message negatively: believe me, they are forced to read such SMS almost daily. If you are aimed at adequate communication and an interesting dialogue, it is better to refuse hackneyed phrases. nine0003

But there is another side of the “coin” – when a guy wants to get a girl's attention so much that he comes up with an original message. In the "move" are pictures with bouquets or hearts from emoticons. And this is the worst option, some guys just lose the edge of reason.

You can always find a clue in a girl's profile. You see a lot of pictures from the ski resort and you yourself are an ardent fan of skiing? Great: you already have a reason to start a dialogue.

5. “She is so alone”

When meeting a girl on Instagram, it is important to show that you are only interested in her person and are not ready to consider other options (even if this is not the case). It is very important to find an individual approach in order to show the chosen one that "she is so alone."

It is not at all necessary to open a search engine and try to “google” biographical facts. Everything is much simpler than you think: carefully look at the photos and read the posts. In personal communication, hint at her exceptional features that you could not find in any other person. nine0003

Remember the "golden" rule and do not allow "pussies", "babies" and "bunnies" in the dialogue. “Zoo” has not been relevant for a long time: such communication characterizes you as a “stupid pick-up artist” who could not come up with anything better than cliched phrases. Personalization is very important here - it greatly facilitates communication. Try to call her by her first name (unless, of course, it is known). The girl will be pleased that you address her by name. This will help create a warm and trusting relationship between you.

Keep in mind that each of us loves an individual approach. If you just compose a universal message for dating on Instagram, you risk being left with nothing. nine0003

6.

A photo is your "everything"

Nothing can characterize a girl like her photos on Instagram. Pay attention to the profile: there are a lot of photos from the beach - in front of you is a lover of traveling to warm countries, from the gym - the chosen one clearly takes care of her body, monitors her diet and is definitely not on her way with a lover of fast food and beer restaurants.

Look at the photo - it will help you come up with a topic for conversation. If your hobbies are the same - you hit the "bull's eye". nine0003

7. First message

The most difficult thing is to write the first message and get the girl interested. Do not "line" long "tirades" praising the beauty of the girl. Here you have two options - come up with a "message" yourself and show originality, or follow the standard scheme.

Some guys are embarrassed to write first and are afraid that the direct message will go unanswered. It is important that an attempt to get acquainted does not look like a tackle. The original option is to respond to the stories of the chosen one, comment on her post from the point of view of an expert (for example, she wants to go in for sports, but does not know where to start, and you are a coach in a sports club). nine0003

You can also use the classic scheme. From the banal "Hello!" better to refuse. After reading such a message, three natural questions will appear in the girl's head:

  • Who are you?
  • Why did you write to her?
  • Why are you interested in her?

These three questions will help you compose your message. But remember that it should not be too stretched. Do not forget to say hello and introduce yourself (but not by the name "Vitek", as friends often call you, use "Victor"). The desire to communicate is a normal excuse to start a dialogue. However, you should not “intimidate” the girl and say that you are aiming for marriage or creating a family: you know too little. nine0003

We have already said that the photo in the profile of the chosen one will help to get to know her better. If you noticed a recent photo from your favorite concert on the girl's Instagram, feel free to ask questions. Most importantly, show that she is not just another lady to whom you send a pre-compiled text, but a unique one.

Successful examples

Nice compliment

– Anya, good evening! I stumbled across your Instagram page by accident and was fascinated by your charming smile. How do you look at starting communication outside the Internet? nine0003

- Hi, thanks, but no, I don't trust people I meet.

- Anya, you can go to my profile, there is quite a lot of interesting information about me and what I do. You won't be able to learn so much about a guy you don't know who comes up to meet you on the street :).

– I'm sorry. I thought you were just another pickup artist. I see that you also have a dog, and we live not far :). How do you feel about taking a walk in the park together tomorrow afternoon?

- Excellent. My number is “…”, write your phone number.

Common hobbies

– Marina, good evening! I accidentally stumbled upon your profile on Instagram, looking for beautiful pictures using the hashtag "France". I saw that you are also from St. Petersburg and were in Paris this summer. To be honest, I love this country very much. Can I ask you a few questions about the trip? I run my own blog, I publish stories of travelers (you can go to my page). By the way, I forgot to introduce myself, my name is Vadim. nine0003

– Vadim, hello, nice to meet you!!! I'm glad my photos are of interest to you. Ask, I'll try to answer.

– How do you feel about meeting in the cafe “…” and personally sharing your impressions, getting to know each other? I could tell you some interesting itineraries in France.

– Why not? I finish tomorrow at 5 pm. This cafe is right next to my work. Dial me: number "...".

Let's sum up

It's easier to meet a girl on Instagram than on a dating site. If you managed to start the dialogue correctly, the chances of an answer are quite high. But what to do in the case when the girl answered? nine0003

The most important thing is to show her the seriousness of your intentions. Long correspondence is not the best option. If you see mutual sympathy, feel free to take a phone number or make an appointment.

How to meet a girl on Instagram

Many guys, who are not very confident in themselves in life, often prefer dating on the Internet to dating on the street. Some, moreover, consider this method the most convenient. Today, there are many social networks and chat apps. An application like Instagram is a wonderful and very convenient thing for instant text messaging. Usually Insta is used by friends, exchanging their contacts as a mobile phone number, most people get to know each other first in person, and then contact each other through messages. However, this messaging service can also be used as a way to get to know each other. nine0137

If you are looking for dating

You can find a suitable girl by searching. In Instagram there is such a function as the search for new interlocutors. Before searching, you can enter various parameters, such as age, gender and city. When searching, about 20 people will be displayed - these are, as a rule, the most active users who use Insta all the time, they can often be seen online. Among the users, select the one that you like the most. Most users have some interesting information about themselves, which will make your search easier. When you like someone, feel free to request authorization. nine0003

If a girl is open to new acquaintances and does not have a boyfriend, she will most likely answer you. However, you should know that many people use Instagram for work purposes, do not want to communicate with strangers, so in any case, you should not be upset if your request was rejected. Just keep looking for the right candidate.

If you need a specific girl . As a rule, a unique nickname allows you to accurately find the user. Once found, request authorization.

Here is exactly the same scheme: if the girl is not against new acquaintances and is not in a relationship, she will answer the request. nine0137

How to communicate with a girl?

If you were answered with consent to authorization, the most important task now is to interest the girl and not seem intrusive to her. This is quite difficult, since most girls are used to constant attention and a bunch of messages from strangers, so they can easily perceive you as just another annoying Internet pick-up artist. It is very important to make a good impression on a girl.

Put your best photo on your profile picture, where you can be clearly seen and there is nothing superfluous. To be objective to yourself, it is worth asking the opinion of friends about photography. It's not a good idea to put images from the Internet or photos of celebrities in place of your image. This will not add to your confidence and, most likely, will not cause a desire to get acquainted. Also, don't put a picture of your torso or other body parts, as this will most likely give the girl a reason to think that you want to offer her sex, besides, narcissism does not make a good impression on anyone. nine0003

The nickname should also be treated carefully. It is better to choose a fairly modest nickname for yourself, including a last name or first name, or some interesting word associated with a movie or game. If you call yourself something like "sexmachine" or "playboy555", then this is unlikely to inspire confidence in the girl.

Therefore, in order to make your Insta profile as “attractive” as possible, it is better to put a good quality photo of yourself, come up with an original and interesting nickname and briefly state some information about yourself. For example, that you love playing the guitar or are fond of boxing, prefer to go camping on weekends. This will create the impression of an interesting person with serious intentions about you, and then the likelihood that the girl will express a desire to get to know you will increase many times over. nine0003

When you start talking to a girl, you should never be intrusive. You should first think about what first message you need to write. Many, of course, prefer to start communication with a simple “Hi! How are you?" or “Let's get to know each other?”, but most girls, seeing such messages, immediately begin to consider the guy as another uninteresting candidate, who are a dime a dozen on the network. Of course, many girls quite accept such a beginning of communication, but it’s better to play it safe and write something original. You should not think of yourself as irresistible macho and write in such a manner as if she was lucky to win your royal attention and she should be beside herself with happiness that you wrote to her. It's best to use the most win-win tactic possible by intriguing her with the first message. If she indicated in the questionnaire that she is involved in a particular sport, you can immediately ask her a question about it, as if you are very happy to find an accomplice. Try to somehow distinguish yourself from the rest of the crowd. nine0003

A very good tactic when communicating with a girl is politeness. You should not be familiar from the first minutes of correspondence, communicate with her as with an old friend. You can, just in case, refer to her as “you” until she offers to switch to “you”. This approach, however, is not suitable for everyone. There is a risk that the girl will seem too boring or boring.

Many guys think that girls melt from compliments and fall in love with the interlocutor. This is far from always the case. In the first minutes of dating, you shouldn’t start flooding the girl with compliments, it’s better to communicate with her in such a manner as if you see in her so far only an interesting interlocutor. If you really want to, then you can make one modest compliment, and the more time passes from the beginning of communication, the better. Otherwise, the girl will perceive you as another annoying, pouring empty words. nine0003

You don't need to immediately let the girl know that you admire her, the messages should not be enthusiastic. If you do give a girl a compliment, you don't need to use words like "beauty", "cute", "sexy", and so on. In any case, a compliment will immediately let the girl know that you are already hoping for continued communication and are extremely interested in her, which is extremely undesirable in the first minutes of communication.

Therefore, it is best to have a neutral conversation, without immediately showing the girl all your intentions. Messages must be written calmly, without caps lock and a lot of exclamation marks, otherwise she will associate with increased intonation and she will think that you are some kind of crazy. Anxiety and imbalance do not color anyone. nine0003

When talking to a girl, don't talk too much about yourself. If you constantly “pull the blanket over yourself” and talk about your beloved for most of the conversation, this will give the impression of a narcissist and, most likely, will push the girl away. It is better, on the contrary, to learn about her, about her hobbies, life. You can, for example, ask what her nickname means or where this interesting photo from her profile picture was taken. By letting her talk and listening, you show a desire to get to know her better as a person, and at the same time create an aura of mystery around you by not laying out all the information about yourself at once. It is better to talk about yourself when a girl asks for it. By making her sort of pull interesting facts out of you with a tong, you are much more likely to interest her. nine0003

Of course, you should demonstrate all your best qualities as much as possible, but you should not praise yourself and brag about any merits. Boasting has not yet adorned anyone, and besides, there is a risk of appearing either as a smart-ass or who thinks too much of himself. But you should also not say bad things about yourself, “shrink down”, complain about the lack of personal life or bad luck. You should not speak of yourself in a bad light, express fear that she will not like you. This creates a feeling of pressure, and the girl will not know where to get away from you. nine0003

When communicating with a girl, one should not talk too much about everyday problems, let alone complain about something. To express dissatisfaction with something seems to most people to be absolutely harmless, but practice shows that this creates the impression of a whiner about a guy who only knows how to complain about this cruel and unfair world. You should never seek pity from a new acquaintance. If you do this, then firmly fix the association with negativity and whining in her brain. Any woman would like to see a strong man next to her, who knows how to solve any life problems on her own and is always ready to substitute a strong shoulder. If you build yourself offended by fate, this will only kill the masculine in you. nine0003

In communication, it is better to show yourself as a cheerful person who treats everything that happens with humor. If you have a sense of humor, you should definitely show it to your girlfriend. The main thing is not to overdo it and not seem like a jester to her. A guy who does not know how to joke can sometimes seem like a stupid schoolboy. You should not joke vulgarly or tell bearded jokes. Both that, and another can beat off in the girl interest to you. Simplicity and healthy humor sometimes incredibly attract the interlocutor. nine0003

Therefore, you need to make the girl associate with positive, so that communication with you is associated with positive emotions, so that you want to write to you again and again.

In the process of correspondence, when you communicate on various topics, you should send your photos only when the girl asks for it. You should not send them without any reason, expecting comments from her, as this may be too intrusive. If a girl doesn't find you cute, she simply won't know what to say to you. nine0003

When learning about a girl's interests and hobbies, how she spends her free time, what she likes to do, you should not turn the dialogue into an interrogation. Communication should be mutual and fueled by interest on both sides. By the way, it’s not worth the first minute of communication to be interested in her marital status, whether she has a boyfriend and whether she is married. If she communicates with you with interest, then most likely she is free, but there are also girls who do not see anything illegal in communicating with strangers. As already mentioned, you should not immediately express a desire to get to know the prospect of becoming her young man better, as this will put too much pressure on her and make her evaluate you critically. It is better to find out about the presence or absence of a guy after some time of communication in the most relaxed manner. nine0003

Naturally, it's not a good idea to invite a girl to a meeting and offer to exchange phone numbers at the first dialogue. It is worth talking with a girl for a while and make sure that she is really interested in you and even liked you. If she willingly and without delay answers your messages, writes to you first and is clearly glad to have such an interlocutor as you, then you can count on an exchange of phone numbers and even a meeting. It happens that girls are the first to take the initiative and call a young man for a walk, but most girls are too modest and unsure of themselves for such a step, or they consider it the height of indecency.

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